Radhanath Swami on ‘Love Conquers Lust’

Radhanath Swami quote on 'love conquers lust'

Each one of us has the capacity to experience overwhelming divine love, for this love resides within each of our hearts. The soul’s very nature is to reciprocate this pure love with the supreme lover, Krishna (or God) –Radhanath Swami

But, due to forgetfulness of our true nature, we have come under the influence of lust. The Vedic texts define lust as the desire to please our own senses as opposed to the senses of our beloved Krishna. Lust controls us and often causes emotional or even physical harm to our self and others. But by spiritualizing this desire for pleasure through connection with the divine, we transcend all sufferings. By reconnecting to our true nature of pure love, we experience unbounded pleasure in the eternal loving reciprocation between our self and the reservoir of all pleasure, Krishna.

Love Conquers Lust

Everyone is longing for pleasure. But when we lustily endeavour to satisfy this longing, at first there is a feeling of satisfaction, but after a while, we become despondent. Why? Because it is our nature to reciprocate pure love. –Radhanath Swami

Until we experience this divine love, the highest pleasure, we will never be satisfied. Bhakti yoga is the science of shifting our attempts for pleasure from selfish action to loving action in the form of seva or loving service to Krishna.

It doesn’t so much matter what we do: we can cook for Krishna, paint for Krishna, run a business for Krishna, etc. What matters is that we act in a mood of humble devotion for Krishna’s pleasure. In this mood, we can experience the supreme satisfaction of Krishna’s love for us. This divine loving exchange between the soul and Krishna gives overwhelming pleasure and satisfaction. When our heart is thus fulfilled, we no longer feel the urge to derive pleasure from anywhere else. In this way, we transcend the shackles of lust and rise above all dualities like a beautiful lotus.

Radhanath Swami gives the example of St. Francis

Those who have tasted pure love are able to renounce, not only sex, but all of the pleasures of this world. One beautiful example of this is St. Francis of Assisi. His father was very wealthy and Francis was in line to inherit everything. But when he tasted a drop of this divine love, he gave it all up. Can you imagine? He was offered massive amounts of money, fame, prestige, property, and inevitably, women, but he ran away to live a life of total poverty. Despite his dishevelled appearance, he was always satisfied, because he was always tasting the infinite sweetness of divine love.

Radhanath Swami gives the example of Haridas Thakur

One example of the liberating effect of pure love is shown in the chastity of the Vedic saint, Haridas Thakur. Haridas Thakur lived in a cave. He would meditate on the name of God nearly 24 hours a day, absorbed in overwhelming, pure, love. One day, an exquisite woman came to Haridas’s cave desiring to seduce him. The Vedic texts describe her as lust personified. Yet Haridas did not feel even the slightest inclination to enjoy with her. There was no lacking in Haridas’s heart because he was constantly reciprocating divine love with Krishna. The woman relented and became his disciple. For one absorbed in divine love, the influences of lust are like gentle breezes trying to move a building. Once we have experienced a higher taste, nothing can disturb us.

Clarification of sex life

Sex life is not a bad thing. There have been countless saints in all traditions who have raised beautiful, God conscious families. Sex becomes negative when it becomes an obsession.

As soon as lust enters the heart, we no longer view the opposite sex as a people but as “things”. We view them only as objects for our enjoyment. –Radhanath Swami

And the further we are engrossed in this consciousness, the further we drift from the state of pure, selfless, unmotivated, true love. Sex, when performed in the proper consciousness, with the proper motif, is divine. But when it is performed for our own selfish enjoyment, it only degrades our consciousness more and more, to the point where we completely forget what true love actually is.


The essential need within the heart of every living being is to love and to be loved. However, we have a choice: we can direct our loving propensities towards selfish endeavours or we can direct them towards pure love.

Those who direct their loving propensities toward selfish and egoistic experiences come under the control of lust and suffer. But when our loving propensities are in connection with the Divine, we are free to experience the highest, most fulfilling pleasure and satisfaction. –Radhanath Swami

It’s easy to love God. It’s the easiest most natural thing for the soul to find happiness, ecstasy and bliss eternally in serving Krishna. But we are addicted; we are habituated to misdirecting our loving propensities in a lustful manner. But, by dovetailing our loving nature with Krishna via bhakti yoga, we soon unveil our original loving relationship with him. Being thus absorbed in pure love, we cross over this world’s sufferings as if stepping over the hoof print of a baby calf.



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  • CS Sandeep S. Shinde

    Thank you very much.

  • CS Sandeep S. Shinde

    Wonderful explanation by H.H. Radhanath Swami Maharaj.

  • Sanat Swain

    It is very very true love can control lust

  • sunil jha

    very true love can do everything

  • satyam mishra

    very nice explanation

  • Onkar Deshpande

    All the examples and aspects of human life is perfectly explained by HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj. ‘As soon as lust enters the heart, we no longer view the opposite sex as a people but as “things”. We view them only as objects for our enjoyment.’ This very explanation is so much appealing and practical ! We actually need love – our heart is hungry for love ! The appetite for love as explained by HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj is much more than the appetite for Food. Thank You Maharaj for this Fantastic Explanations !!

  • Kuldeep

    What a great explanation given By HH Radhanath Swami.

  • amit

    Wonderful Principle thank you for sharing.

  • CS Sandeep S. Shinde

    Wonderful explanation. Thank you very much.

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  • Prashant

    The real thing what everyone is hankering for: “Love” but searching at wrong place.
    Very clear explanation. Thank you very much for sharing.

  • dewanand

    such a clear descrimination between love and lust.
    thank you for sharing

  • Raju K Mewada

    Very good explanation for our true problem. In this world every one wants pure love but no one how we can get it? In this material world, we have seen man and woman fall in love and eager to meet each other but withing few days of marriage they want to go away from each other. So H H Radhanath Swami has explained nicely difference of love and lust. Our pure and dedicated service to the Lord can only give us satisfaction of pure love. Thank you Maharaj for wonderful but very crucial explanation of life. Hope we can develop true love for the Lord and serve with best of our capabilities.

    • Anand Patil

      very true

  • biswajit

    Wonderfully described,

  • CS Sandeep S. Shinde

    Thank you very much for such a nice explanation.

  • vidya karekar

    Being thus absorbed in pure love, we cross over this world’s sufferings as if stepping over the hoof print of a baby calf.- too good!

  • Kalpana Kulkarni

    Yes, if we are able to direct the propensity to love towards the Supreme Lord, then our lives will be fulfilling, satisfying and perfect!

  • Piyush Singh

    “Sex life is not a bad thing. There have been countless saints in all traditions who have raised beautiful, God conscious families. Sex becomes negative when it becomes an obsession”. Doesn’t it make lots of sense.
    Don’t we lack this crystal clear understanding in general today? Many Thanks to HH Radhanath Swami for this wisdom.

    • Anand Patil

      Very good thought. Thanks.

      • Piyush Singh

        Thank you.

  • Piyush Singh

    The examples of Haridas Thakur shared by HH Radhanath Swami is really very inspiring. When one is engrossed in the higher taste of Holy Name, any other petty pleasures of this world don’t interest at the least.

  • NSP

    Wonderful article! Thanks for sharing!

  • biswajit

    Beautiful Explanation,

  • Sumit Sharma

    Wonderful article by HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj.

  • Kavya

    very amazing article. it gives crystal clear understanding between love and lust. Thank you for such enlivening article.

  • Kalpana Kulkarni

    Very true! We are all looking for love but unfortunately do not get pure love so all of us suffer. it is only when we taste the pure love of reciprocation with the Lord will our soul be fully satisfied and nothing will be able to disturb us. Hope we can get even a drop of this love for the Supreme Lord.

    • Anand Patil

      Very true.

  • Piyush Singh

    A very useful discourse, precisely delineating the often confusing difference between Love and Lust. Thank you very much for publishing this wisdom from HH Radhanath Swami.

  • Y Raja Shekar

    Very wonderful article by Radhanath Swami. WE can understand the power of love towards Krishna through this article.

    • Piyush Singh

      Yes. This is really very useful article depicting power of love.

  • NSP

    Beautiful article that clearly differentiates love from lust!

  • Satya Kama Das

    Love only can conquer lust. Thank you very much for giving such a nice narration.

  • biswajit

    Very wonderful.

  • brajswaminidd

    Very profound and wonderful.

  • vidya karekar

    Radhanath Maharaj has so nicely explained pure love.!