“This is the nature of human ego: we become so filled with anxieties when we have expectations, because the nature of this world is that you always don’t get what you expect.” – Radhanath Swami
If we expect good weather and it is bad weather, it’s very disturbing. If we expect respect from our husband, our wife, our friends, the world, we are not always going to get it. The more we expect the more we suffer when we don’t get. And the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer. This is human psychology.
Renunciation, detachment means to be self-satisfied. Doesn’t matter. We don’t need anything. When we are not self-satisfied, the soul tries to find it somewhere else. If we are not finding it in our love for God and our compassion for all living beings, we are going to expect it from somewhere else.
– Radhanath Swami
Very true! When we don’t get what we expect, we are disappointed and in anxiety. So the solution to be happy is to be self-satisfied and detached. We can achieve this by finding our lost love for God and compassion for all living beings!
Human psychology very well explained. Basically the root cause of all our miseries is expectation. If we stop having expectation from others, we will be relatively happy.
Generally we understand renunciation or detachment to give up things and be averse to material things. Thank you HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj for opening our eyes to the real understanding of renunciation/detachment.
wonderful explanation about how expectations if not fulfilled leads us to search it somewhere else,thanks HH Radhanath swami
We come across the situations daily where we do expect and we do suffer. This website is full of eternal knowledge where we can go and get the guidance for leading the good life. Thank You.
True. So much nectar from the lectures of Radhanath Swami is made available here.
Maharaj has so wonderfully described the nature of human ego! This article is so instructive!
Wonderful message from HH Radhanath Swami maharaj.
The more we expect the more we suffer when we don’t get. And the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer. This is human psychology very nicely explained.
True. Expectation leads to frustration. Thanks Radhanath Swami.
Renunciation, detachment means to be self-satisfied. very meaningful statement by Radhanath Swami.
This is really powerful statement by Radhanath Swami.
“Renunciation, detachment means to be self-satisfied” . Thanks Radhanath swami maharaj
Very rightly illustrated !!
EGO- Big problem, Nice explanation by Maharaj
Our false ego is what keeps us bound here.
This is a timely message – if we are not self-satisfied in our love for God, we are always going to look for it somewhere else.
Very true. Eye opening statement for spiritualists by Radhanath Swami.
Thanks to Radhanath swami for this wonderful article
HH Radhanath Swami Maharaj has so nicely enlightened us on the nature of human ego, which is a cause of tremendous suffering!
Very true!! To the extent you expect to that extent there would be frustration when we don’t get what we expected.
self satisfaction derived through love of god solution to expectation, very useful thought. Expectation is the biggest cause of dissatifaction every moment.
thanks for such a practical way of explaining things.
Thank you swamiji for your wonderful share
thanks maharaj for explaining the secret for happiness
The paradox is even when the false ego is fed, by fulfilment of our expectations, we will not relish the Holy Names.
Few days ago, I was dishonored by a collegue of mine and the mental anguish did not allow me to take the shelter of Holy names. And the very next day, I was glorified by a devotee and my mind was in the state of euphoria preventing the Holy names to penetrate my consciousness…….!
Chanting is simultaneously easy and difficult. Easy as a process but difficult to perfect.
I like this sentence of HH Radhanath swami Maharaj ,Renunciation, detachment means to be self-satisfied. Doesn’t matter. We don’t need anything.
90% depression cases are only and only because of high expectations, and self-centered nature.
indeed how important it is to find love and satisfaction with God. Thanks to Radhanath swami for enlightening us and helping us to become satisfied.
Very nice article by Swamiji.
One should learn to be satisfied in what every position by the association of pure devotees like Radhanath Maharaj.
Expectation – Reality is suffering. Radhanath Swami explains is very wonderfully.
Happy to read that ego problems can be subsided if we try to find self-satisfaction in love of God & compassion for living entities. Thank you Radhanath Swami for the same..
Deeper contemplation on root cause of Ego..
HH Radhanath Swami explains things so nicely that a common man can easily understand it and relate it to ones life. This is a very special attribute of him which he is using so nicely. Thanks you very much.
A practicle explaination by radhanath swami maharaj. Thank you for sharing.
Great solution provided by the Radhanath swami as many times I expect something from others on the account when I did something for same person. I feel over the period it always end with frustration. Si this is most crucial lesson: “If we are not finding it in our love for God and our compassion for all living beings, we are going to expect it from somewhere else.”
True. Radhanath Swami gives great solution for being happy.
just always be in the shelter of devotees n spread krishna consciousness is the goal of life
So true, because of our conditioning we always expect respect from other and not possble everytime we will get respect and result suffer from mental agony…If we simply try to serve and lord and devotees,,,we can be simply be happy in all circumstance
“The nature of this world is that you always don’t get what you expect.” Accepting this simple fact can make us peaceful.
Its very true how because of expectations from others many times we are miserable. Radhanath Swami explains it so nicely everytime. I hope that I will follow and apply His teachings in my life !
Thank you !
Hare Krishna !
Very truly said by Radhanath Swami, the very cause of friction in relationships is having expectations from others & being dissatisfied.
If we are not finding it in our love for God and our compassion for all living beings, we are going to expect it from somewhere else.
-Very true..
Radhanath Swami has perfectly analyzed the root cause of our unhappiness. Wonderful article.
This is a very apt thought. Therefore some one has very rightly said .. Expect the Best, but be prepared for the Worst and accept what comes.
Really very nice analysis by HH Radhanath Swami. He knows essence of life.
Such a wonderful statement by Radhanath Swami Maharaja. I have personally experienced this, “The more we expect the more we suffer when we don’t get. And the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer.”
Human Ego needs to be controlled and that is only possible by practice of devotion to the Lord.
Radhanath Swami nicely explains what is nature of human ego.
Wonderful explanation on human ego by Radhanath Swami.
I like the words of radhanath swami that ..The more we expect the more we suffer when we don’t get, and the solution for this is to be self-satisfied in the name of God.
Attachment and expectations which are not met lead to disappointments. So we should learn to be detached and not have too much of expectations so that success or failures, happiness or distress will not affect us too much.
Radhanath Swami Ki Jai
human ego is so subtle .. only saints like Radhanath Swami can show how it is acting on the human beings.
Thank you Radhanath Swami for giving an insight of human psycology.
Great article!
Raddhanath Swami Maharaj nicely points out – When we are not self-satisfied, the soul tries to find it somewhere else.
HH Radhanath Swami says else where that if we are not occupied with the thoughts and activities related to God then we will thoroughly illusioned by the material worldly nonsense.
Very inspiring read. Many thanks to Radhanath swami for kindly posting this article
The secret to happiness is “trinadapi sunechena” verse
our love for God and our compassion for all living beings – only can satisfy the self and stop the expectations and hence anxieties. Thanks for sharing this article.
very inspiring. I wish one day I will develop this quality Krsna willing.
This is very practical. Thank you Radhanath swami for this enlightening article.
thank you so much very inspiring
If the false ego becomes true ego, then one is self satisfied. Because what he possess is nothing but what Krsna has given him and not trying to get more from somewhere else. All glories to HH Radhanatha Svami Maharaja.
Self satisfaction as said by Radhanath Swami is the key for being peaceful.
Self satisfied is a very important quality for renunciation, well emphasized by H H Radhnath swami mahraj. Thank you very much
Radhanath Swami clearly explains here why living entities are craving for material enjoyment.
Wonderful explanation on nature of human ego.
Expectation = anxiety
Wonderful article!!Thank you very much H.H.Radhanath maharaj for explaining about our ego.
Thank you so much for sharing this valuable info about ourselves & our ego.
Thank you for the message that satisfaction lies within.
Thank you very much Radhanath Swami for such a nice insight.
Radhanth Swami explains this very nicely “The more we expect the more we suffer when we don’t get. And the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer. This is human psychology.”I liked this point a lot.
Really radhanath swami explain happiness formula. Expectation gives sufferings if not full fill.
That is so true. 90 percent of the time we spend either on expecting or on frustration due to failed expectations.
Thank you Radhanath Swami.
A very nice article. Thank you Swamiji.
All gories to HHRNSM. This short write up has very well explained the human psychology and how expectations lead to tremendous suffering. Thank you for sharing this vital information.
Touching quote from Radhanath Swami “Renunciation, detachment means to be self-satisfied.”. We don’t have to artificially detach ourselves from things, but engage them in Krishna’s service and then everything would be alright.
We may feel we are free from false ego but that is only an illusion! By the power of the mercy of Guru and Krishna, it is possible to transcend.
I liked your statement “the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer”. Thank you Radhanath Swami.
I like you statement “the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer”. Thank you Radhanath Swami.
Thank you Radhanath Swami for making such a profound statement. The more we deepen our relationship with God the less we expect from others.
When we are not self-satisfied, the soul tries to find it somewhere else. Beautiful quote..
many thanks to swami radhanath for the wonderful article
What a test–Renunciation, detachment means to be self-satisfied.
Very nice article. Thank you very much for sharing the same.
HH Radhanath Swami gives a very practical understanding of what the nature of people in this material world.
expectation to more expectation or frustration. So much true. Thank you Radhanath Swami for this article.
This is very true. Thank you Radhanath swami for this wonderful insightful article.
Thank you Radhanath Swami for the wonderful insight – We don’t need anything. When we are not self-satisfied, the soul tries to find it somewhere else. If we are not finding it in our love for God and our compassion for all living beings, we are going to expect it from somewhere else.
If we renounce the fruits of our work, then we shall be happy.
When we are always in an expecting mood, we cannot be compassionate.
What a swell article from Swamiji
Very thoughful
Nice article!
Thank you for sharing..
Expectations are root cause of pain in both material and spiritual life, amazing quote by HH Radhanath Swami, described here wonderfully.
Inner satisfaction is the real satisfaction. We we expect from outside, it is misery, as it is never constant. Thank you Radhanath Swami
amazing article. really thought worthy.
Thank you Radhanath Swami. To be self satisfied in loving God and conscious of not expecting honour from others is the greatest need in today’s times when so many marriages are ending in divorce in the western world and now in India also
A very deep lesson!
The nature of human ego is very nicely explained herein by Radhanath Swami.This is like fire.The more we satisfy it,the more it demands from us.Only solution to this is to become God conscious,The Krishna Conscious.
true the this goes on and on with no end in sight, only KC can bring an end to this
Good write up. We have always seen that saintly people, though poor are in bliss because they are self satisfied.
This once again emphasizes the point how we get unhappy due to expectations. The secret to happiness is “trinadapi sunechena” verse and how close we are leading our lives to the meaning of this verse.
So the secret for happiness – ” Do not have expectations ! ” . Thank You Maharaj for this Gem
“Expectation is the cause of all sufferings……..”
Very true statement : The nature of this world is that you always don’t get what you expect.
excellent quote. the more you expect, the more you suffer and if you are not self satisfied, we will try to find that satisfaction in something else and then suffer
Expectations indeed leads to anxiety & stress. Thank you Radhanath Swami for driving home this point.
True satisfaction lies only in loving God and helping others develop this love for God. Rest all are material desires which will only bring unlimited anxiety & frustration. Thank you Radhanath Swami for this illuminating article!
This is the misery of human being that we are always expect something in return from others and leads to frustration. Indeed !! if we start attaching towards God(Krishna) then we will feel the happiness.
Thanks to Radhanath swami for this wonderful article on human false ego
Just love this understanding given by Maharaj regarding expectations.
Very true! We are disappointed when our expectations are not met which in turn results in frustration. Even if our expectations are met, we keep hankering for more. So we should be self satisfied, then even if our expectations are not met we will not be unhappy.
Radhanath Swami Ki Jai !
The same love and affection when redirected towards Lord gives us so much of self satisfaction and happiness. As a practitioner we can see the reciprocation at our level from Lord when we sincerely pray and execute our duties. This short write up has very well explained the human psychology and how expectations lead to tremendous suffering. Thank you for sharing this vital information.
vicious cycle explained by maharaj. the more we desire more chances of failing and frustration…if we get and desire more and then dont get the suffering is more…goes deeper and deeper…very deep thought. thanks for sharing
So very true—The more we expect the more we suffer when we don’t get. And the more we get, the more we expect and when we don’t get the more we suffer. This is human psychology.